I ended my last blog by stating what I thought is the hardest part of writing a book, starting.
Why is starting so hard? There are infinite answers to this question. I think for most, however, it’s fear. Fear of the unknown. Fear of rejection. Fear of the process. Fear of the reader.
After months of writing my first book, I decided to go the traditional publishing route. I gathered a list of publishers who excepted non-agented or non-solicited writers and hit the send button. Three months later, the rejection emails began to arrive. Somewhere kind, even encouraging. But I couldn’t take these rejections to heart or head; I fixated on the ones that were negative and some downright cruel.
I prepared myself for rejection, I thought. I’d read about authors, good authors who received years of rejections before publishing. I’d read articles and blog posts on how you shouldn’t take it personally, how publishing is subjective. None of this helped. I took it personally because writing is personal. It’s like giving birth. You shelter and nurture your story for months, even years, before you send it out to the world. You hope when you do, it survives, doesn’t come back with deep cuts and nasty bruises.
At this point, I could have thrown in my laptop. Years later and many dollars short, I sometimes think I should have. But I didn’t. I compromised. I put my first manuscript in a folder and began anew.
Months later, I finished a new book, Layers, and began the process of self-publishing.
In my next blog, we’ll begin to discuss the beginning process of writing a book and take a shallow dive into the world of self-publishing; the ends and outs, the good, the bad, and the ugly.

Just Sayin’


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